From daughter to daughter-in-law

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Leaving your home for studies, traveling, work, or any sort of thing but leaving your home after getting married is a completely different scenario. Today while packing all the kind of stuff I got a bit emotional like that’s it. You are taking all your things with you to a different place and with completely different people for the rest of your life. Now your belongings are changed. You don’t return to your home after coming from work or a trip or anything, you have to go to your in-laws’ home. How could this be even Lil easier, it’s not at all.

 

From your taste to your clothing you need to take care of everything you have to change everything. You have to adjust in every manner and in every situation in your life. You have to think thousands of times before speaking a word or putting out your thoughts in front of your in-laws. You have to inform or ask for everything when you go out to meet your friends or for any sort of work. You have come back home in a limited time. You have to cook well, you have to dress well, you have to behave well, you can’t even lie down and be in whatever comfortable position you are in. You have to wake up at a particular time and be religious; if you don’t, it seems like you have committed a crime. You have to meet thousands of unknown people whom you don’t know and act like you are liking everyone. Top of that people will judge you on your skin color, your body, your behavior, your eating habits, and your behavior like each and everything. You have to do the things you have never done in your life or never wanted to do. In your parent’s home, you are included in every decision but here you sometimes become part of the discussion or any decision.

Sometimes you feel your opinion doesn’t matter at all and you feel sick and start questioning everything. You have to do many things which you hate the most. People don’t see these things as major as we as Indians grow up with this Indian mindset that one day a girl has to leave the home where she was born and has spent almost half of her life and have to adjust to her in-laws’. But when you see as a daughter, as a girl, as a daughter-in-law, especially as an individual how is it easy for us? Isn’t it unfair? How is it make any sense? Can you imagine even for to continue working after getting married is their authority and top of that you have to take care of family, home even though you are working. It doesn’t matter if you are in a mood or not you have to and you should be good enough to handle everything.

 

Being married doesn’t mean a girl has to change, why do girls have to do everything? I am not underestimating the duties boys take care of, but girls are also earning and feeding their families then why do we have to do certain changes? Why do we have to go to our in-laws’ and stay there lifelong? And how many men are comfortable staying at their in-laws’? And even if they are comfortable how long they are allowed to stay there?

 

When you see you see these are the small changes but when you live then you know it these small changes make big differences in your life and as an individual sometimes you lose yourself in these adjustments. It’s really hard to stay as an individual and it’s really important to be the one.

 

So, dear men and parents-in-law or parents don’t you ever dare to take your daughters or daughter in laws for granted. It’s not about bad in-laws or husbands it’s all about the changes we face after getting married. We just need that support or an understanding that we have left the lifestyle we have been living for 25-26 years and coming into a completely new routine, new home, new people, and new lifestyle even though it’s not fair but we will adjust.

 

We don’t want big gestures or expensive gifts, we just need that love, care, a bit of understanding, and Lil adjustments, too from your side as well. We are not asking you to take big steps for us it’s just we want that back when we put our opinions, you just consider it seriously and give respect to it. We are not asking you to help us out in everything at home, but just standing there with us is enough for us, sitting there until we finish our meals means a lot to us. We just want little things in life from our partner rest of the things we are capable of doing by ourselves.

 

 

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